During the pioneer days, farmers would use a sturdy 3 legged stool to sit on and milk the cows for their milk. If that stool had one leg that was weaker than the other two then it would collapse and the farmer would fall on the ground.
If we look at education as a three-legged stool: one leg would be the teacher, one leg would be the student and one leg would be the parent.
The focus of most education reformers has been on the teachers, which is a good place to start but we cannot forget or ignore the other two legs. When the only leg that is improved is the teacher, then the result is a lopsided stool with one leg longer or stronger than the other two, therefore the other two legs are shorter or weaker and can’t support anyone sitting on it.
According to Kidscount.org in 2013 there were 24, 647,000 or 35% of all children were from single parent homes. Here is the data table of the breakdown of single parent families by race. When you have single parent families, then typically that parent is working more than one job to make ends meet. Yes, there are many single parents that are doing an excellent job, but most are not.
The student must do their part also. When they are given an assignment then they must complete it. Far too many of students fail to complete their homework or just plain refuse. The teacher did not give the assignment just to give the assignment but rather it was meant to be an extension of the classroom by providing more time to practice and master the objective of the day. There are some that have legitimate reasons for not completing their homework such as needing to babysit their younger siblings so their single parent can work a second or third job but mostly not completing homework is a choice.
The parents must also take an active part in their child’s education. Many times when I have called to discuss an issue with a parent I have gotten the response “I send him/her up there for eight hours a day for you to deal with. Don’t call me back!” The parents do not have any expectations of their children. Many parents have the attitude that, “I’ve been government assistance forever and it will be there for you when you get older, so you don’t have to work for anything in your life, including your education.”
Parents need to be parents and hold their children accountable for their performance. If they are the weak leg, then the stool will collapse and be dysfunctional.
There is an alarming trend of only holding the teacher responsible for the student’s behavior or academic success. The cartoon below sums up the directions that the expectations coming from our parents are going.
Life may have been a little slow and some would consider it to be boring in the 1950’s but the parents had the right attitude about their children’s education. Work hard in school, go to college and get a degree and then be assured of a job for life. This country has drifted away from this philosophy towards an attitude of mediocrity. Mediocre is the acceptable standard. There is very little pride in work, craftsmanship and effort.
Until we build a better, more balanced 3 legged stool there will be little improvement in the education system and the quality of student’s that it produces in this country.
David R Taylor
27-Year Teacher, Coach and Principal